We’ve recently added another resource, our YouTube Channel called myspiritmattersvideo, to help you and the ones you love get help with addiction, substance abuse and co-dependence issues. You can find it by clicking on the video below or going directly here: http://www.youtube.com/myspiritmattersvideo We’ve kicked things off with mostly co-dependence content. Not to worry, more diverse ...…
Co-dependents do not realize when their loved one has crossed that invisible line into addiction where they cannot get him/her to quit. The person most often needs professional help. Even if they wanted to quit, they would run into problems with withdrawal. You see, by the time a person reaches addiction, they are both physically ...…
Your life in a co-dependent relationship may feel completely out of control because you are living with someone who has a problem with alcohol/drugs and your life will never be the same. Each day you wait not knowing when that other shoe will fall, but you know it will fall. What do you do when ...…
Will your family’s legacy be your destiny? When I work with the alcoholic/addict it is not unusual to hear that they had one parent or both parents who were alcoholics or drug addicts. They may be able to describe several generations of family members with addictions. Some people automatically feel that it is their destiny ...…
A word many co-dependents will hear when they seek help is detachment. Several books have been written on how to detach with love, but what does it really mean? Detachment means that no matter what is going on in your life or the life of loved ones, you are able to remain free and happy. ...…
One of the hardest realities for a co-dependent to accept is the fact that their life has been negatively impacted by the loved one’s alcoholic/addict behaviors. Because they are living in the unhealthy day-to-day situation, they fail to recognize all the changes they have undergone just as a matter of survival in the dysfunctional system. ...…
Why are you not getting what you want? The alcoholic/addict is not changing; in fact they appear to be getting worse. The question should not be, “What is wrong with this picture?” but “What is the truth in this picture?” And the truth is, the person has an addiction. The disease of alcoholism gets worse ...…
Are you watching someone you love and care about move deeper and deeper into alcohol or drugs? Surely you have noticed how they have changed, even though they continue to deny that there is a problem. In fact, most alcoholics/addicts will turn their anger and frustration onto you when you even mention that you are ...…
At what point does helping turn into co-dependency? Helping others does create those positive feelings. Helping makes us all feel good about what we’re doing. But for the co-dependent person, helping can quickly become out of control as you spend your time trying to control the alcoholic/addict in your life. The control may be in ...…
