Another question co-dependents should consider

Another question to consider: “Why does it feel as if the alcoholic/addict is always pulling the rug out from underneath you?” Especially, if he/she really loves you. Living with someone who is active in their addiction can be very difficult and stressful. Many co-dependents spend years living in an alcohol/drug environment that is filled with anger, hostility, emotional games, destructiveness and physical abuse. As the co-dependent you unknowingly give your power away to the alcoholic/addict and as a result, spend years living in a turbulent environment waiting for the alcoholic/addict to do something; to quit; to slow down; to cut back; to make a better choice or to just love you enough to want to change. All the while you are trying to manage this situation until you

• get tired and leave
• stay and pick your battles
• put the mask on and show little concern
• adjust and say nothing

But in reality you have lost you in the process. The most important point is that there is a better way.

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