How can you love someone who treats you with such contempt and disdain as only the alcoholic addict can? The hurtful words and behaviors are most confounding for the co-dependent as they try to figure out why they stay. My answer is: because you remember. And what you remember is who they were before the ...…
Your life in a co-dependent relationship may feel completely out of control because you are living with someone who has a problem with alcohol/drugs and your life will never be the same. Each day you wait not knowing when that other shoe will fall, but you know it will fall. What do you do when ...…
Will your family’s legacy be your destiny? When I work with the alcoholic/addict it is not unusual to hear that they had one parent or both parents who were alcoholics or drug addicts. They may be able to describe several generations of family members with addictions. Some people automatically feel that it is their destiny ...…
One of the hardest realities for a co-dependent to accept is the fact that their life has been negatively impacted by the loved one’s alcoholic/addict behaviors. Because they are living in the unhealthy day-to-day situation, they fail to recognize all the changes they have undergone just as a matter of survival in the dysfunctional system. ...…
Why are you not getting what you want? The alcoholic/addict is not changing; in fact they appear to be getting worse. The question should not be, “What is wrong with this picture?” but “What is the truth in this picture?” And the truth is, the person has an addiction. The disease of alcoholism gets worse ...…
Are you watching someone you love and care about move deeper and deeper into alcohol or drugs? Surely you have noticed how they have changed, even though they continue to deny that there is a problem. In fact, most alcoholics/addicts will turn their anger and frustration onto you when you even mention that you are ...…
The person who is having a problem with alcohol/drugs is unable to see how their abusive behaviors are affecting their lives and the lives of their loved ones! Once the invisible line into addiction has been crossed, the alcoholic/addict has to take on a defensive posture called denial in order to continue to drink/use. Addiction ...…
