Co-dependents do not realize when their loved one has crossed that invisible line into addiction where they cannot get him/her to quit. The person most often needs professional help. Even if they wanted to quit, they would run into problems with withdrawal. You see, by the time a person reaches addiction, they are both physically ...…
Your life in a co-dependent relationship may feel completely out of control because you are living with someone who has a problem with alcohol/drugs and your life will never be the same. Each day you wait not knowing when that other shoe will fall, but you know it will fall. What do you do when ...…
A word many co-dependents will hear when they seek help is detachment. Several books have been written on how to detach with love, but what does it really mean? Detachment means that no matter what is going on in your life or the life of loved ones, you are able to remain free and happy. ...…
One of the hardest realities for a co-dependent to accept is the fact that their life has been negatively impacted by the loved one’s alcoholic/addict behaviors. Because they are living in the unhealthy day-to-day situation, they fail to recognize all the changes they have undergone just as a matter of survival in the dysfunctional system. ...…
Are you watching someone you love and care about move deeper and deeper into alcohol or drugs? Surely you have noticed how they have changed, even though they continue to deny that there is a problem. In fact, most alcoholics/addicts will turn their anger and frustration onto you when you even mention that you are ...…
When you find yourself involved in the co-dependency paradigm which includes the maze of pain, frustration and fear you might feel it would be easier to just put your life and happiness on hold. All your time, attention, and resources become focused on the alcoholic/addict in your life. Your major quest becomes figuring out what ...…
Many people have difficulty understanding why some people put up with and stay in an addictive environment for so long. “Why did you stay?” “I just can’t imagine putting up with all that craziness for all those years!” The main reason co-dependents stay is because they know in their heart that the person that they ...…
