How can you love someone who treats you with such contempt and disdain as only the alcoholic addict can? The hurtful words and behaviors are most confounding for the co-dependent as they try to figure out why they stay. My answer is: because you remember. And what you remember is who they were before the ...…
The word concentration is not often associated with co-dependency, but I think it should be. Concentration is having the self-discipline to force yourself to concentrate on you. Co-dependents must be open to concentrating single-mindedly on one thing – themselves. It means you are making a commitment to yourself to do something every day that will ...…
Each day it gets more difficult to see beyond your present situation. It is their hope and prayer that, if it would just stop, their lives will return to normal. Co-dependents must be willing to look beyond what they have done and be willing to experience a new possibility. Today is the call for you ...…
Another question to consider: “Why does it feel as if the alcoholic/addict is always pulling the rug out from underneath you?” Especially, if he/she really loves you. Living with someone who is active in their addiction can be very difficult and stressful. Many co-dependents spend years living in an alcohol/drug environment that is filled with ...…
What is the number one question that most co-dependents ask of the professional? By far, the most-often-asked question is, “How do I get him/her to stop using/drinking? I have tried everything – and it just seems to get worse no matter what I do”! And yes, it will continue to get worse despite your best ...…
